Shattered Dreams: My Life as a Polygamist's Wife

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Shattered Dreams: My Life as a Polygamist's Wife

Shattered Dreams My Life as a Polygamist s Wife IRENE SPENCER grew up in a fundamentalist Mormon family the thirteenth of thirty one children so it was no surprise that she found herself at sixteen years of age in a plural marriage sharing her h

  • Title: Shattered Dreams: My Life as a Polygamist's Wife
  • Author: Irene Spencer
  • ISBN: 9781599957197
  • Page: 417
  • Format: Hardcover
  • IRENE SPENCER grew up in a fundamentalist Mormon family the thirteenth of thirty one children so it was no surprise that she found herself, at sixteen years of age, in a plural marriage, sharing her husband with a half sister.Enduring abject poverty, living in isolation, and suffering the neglect of a husband with divided loyalties created unbearable conditions Yet IrenIRENE SPENCER grew up in a fundamentalist Mormon family the thirteenth of thirty one children so it was no surprise that she found herself, at sixteen years of age, in a plural marriage, sharing her husband with a half sister.Enduring abject poverty, living in isolation, and suffering the neglect of a husband with divided loyalties created unbearable conditions Yet Irene managed to overcome these obstacles to seek a life that she believed would be better for her and her children She made a bold step into the outside world and into a freedom she never knew existed.The details of her harrowing experience will appall, astonish, and in the end, greatly inspire This dramatic story reveals how far religion can be stretched and abused, and how one woman and her children found their way into truth and redemption.

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    1. Petra X on said:

      Update This is a view I hadn't considered before, and maybe it doesn't apply to fundamentalists, but the view has to come from somewhere. I was watching that show Sister Wives on tv. The fourth wife said that she didn't want to marry just a man, she wanted to marry a family and friends. She said she didn't want to be the first wife because she would have the agony of jealousy when the second one came in. She didn't want to be the second who would have to live with that. She wanted to be a third [...]

    2. Skye on said:

      Fascinating train wreck of a story, but my feminist sensibilities had a hard time allowing the author to lead such a life. She turned down a chance a real love to do what she thought god wanted. Strike one. Followed "signs" to lead her into what she knew would be a life of submission and silence. Strike two. Any children would also be prey. Strikes three, four, and five.At the hands of men, she had decades full of heartbreak, broken promises, charismatic bullies and endless suffering under the p [...]

    3. Maren on said:

      I have so many thoughts after reading this book. Let me preface my notes by saying that I could hardly put my mind to rest last night after finishing this:1. Why in the world did Irene stay with Verlan so long? My conclusion is that either she's a complete push-over and enabler, or the brainwashing was beyond her ability to get past. Or both. Honestly, I am still in awe at her raising dozens of kids (yes, dozens since two of her sister-wives left for jobs and she raised their kids too in many wa [...]

    4. Renee on said:

      Shattered Dreams is a fascinating look at a way of life totally foreign to most people. Irene Spencer grew up in the branch of the Mormon faith that still believed in polygamy. The second of what was ultimately her husband's ten wives, she became the mother of thirteen of his 58 children. The statistics are important as they show the unimaginable situation in which Irene Spencer spend much of her life. This book is a brutally honest memoir of a woman' life. It follows her from place to place, ne [...]

    5. Sara on said:

      It was interesting to read this after reading Carolyn Jessup's Escape. Both memoirs are about the author's polygamous marriage with the "blessing" of FLDS, but they center on different aspects of it; whereas Escape spoke not only of the authors abusive marriage but also getting out of it and getting custody of her children through the court system, this book is more about the hardships endured by those in this polygamous society and the author's struggle with her belief system and her desire to [...]

    6. Ruth Turner on said:

      DNFWhat a colossal pain in the a** this woman is…Yes, I’ll marry you, Glen.Ummm…no, I don’t think I will afterall.I’ve changed my mind. I’ll marry you.Ummm…well no, maybe not.Guess what? Changed my mind again. Let’s get married.Ummm…no, I guess not.Ok, this time for sure.Damn…changed my mind again. Sorry, Glen.Go to hell, says Glen.Smart man. What took you so long? Well, maybe not so smart!Ummmm…wait a minute…maybe God will say it’s ok to marry you even though you aren [...]

    7. britt_brooke on said:

      “ in polygamy, nothing is ever enough.” This is a very detailed account of Spencer’s life as a Fundamentalist Latter Day Saint (FLDS) and destitute polygamist raising a shit-ton of kids. I couldn’t help but love her blunt personality, but my heart ached for her. If you’ve read The Sound of Gravel, you might be interested to know that Irene Spencer’s husband Verlan and Ruth Wariner’s father Joel were brothers.

    8. Books Ring Mah Bell on said:

      Irene Spencer takes us inside her life as wife #2 (out of 9!!!) in a Polygamist union. A life that is NOT easy, by any stretch. She does pretty well living in poverty; for many years not having enough food, not having electricity or running water. She has to make her own underwear and maternity clothes (sometimes out of flour sacks). The part she struggles with is sharing her husband. I wish I could say I felt for her, but honestly, after the 25th time she's throwing a tantrum and crying on her [...]

    9. Karen on said:

      Reading this book left me with at least one clear and resounding thought: "Thank God I wasn't raised in a crazy religious cult." Irene Spencer tells a mesmerizing tale of her upbringing as a fourth generation fundamentalist Mormon, an upbringing that led her into a polygamous marriage at age sixteen. Taught all her life to uphold the Principle of plural marriage, the author sacrificed again and again, leaving a man she truly loved (but whose insistence on monogamy would have damned her eternally [...]

    10. Michele on said:

      Too Many Wives . . . Too Many KidsI can honestly say I’ve never read anything quite like the life story of Irene Spencer in her memoir Shattered Dreams: My Life as a Polygamist’s Wife. Stories like this are seldom told. Either the subject doesn’t live to tell the tale, or more specifically, her lack of formal education, interaction with the outside world OR her religion would forbid it.My first thought upon finishing this long story of poverty, grief and heartache was, thank GOD she escape [...]

    11. Margaret on said:

      This book deserves six stars in my mind. I have been reading since I could read and I think that I was 6 when I got my first library card. I have never read a book like this in my entire reading history! I am amazed at what this woman went through and her ultimate testimony of how she continues to speak out and help other polygamist wives caught in this hellish trap. At some point while reading I felt physically and emotionally caught on a train that was proceeding towards a cliff! No worries, I [...]

    12. Julie on said:

      It was interesting to me that a book on polygamy was on the Top 100, so I put it on hold at the library. I think the authors story, while certainly tragic, is different from most of the polygamist girls that are married off young. Her mother left her father (as did another of the fathers 3 wives) when the author was young. Her mother then begged her for years not to follow into polygamy. She had a nice guy she was in love with who was desperate to marry her - monogamously. Yet she still chose p [...]

    13. Carrie on said:

      While reading this book, I discovered my husband may still technically belong to the Mormon church his mom signed him up for as a kid. Well, probably not, since they excommunicated his sister. Myself, I totally disagree with Mormonism, polygamy, and people who do things for religious purposes, especially when it goes against common sense. I kind of enjoyed the story just to see how different someone's life can be from mine. There were a lot of extremely unfortunate incidents described here that [...]

    14. Jessica on said:

      I think I was equally horrified and fascinated by this book. The author was a really feisty woman, and that made the situations she had to endure a lot easier to read about. I even found myself laughing at different parts. With that said, I was annoyed at her often inaccurate connections to the LDS and FLDS churches (mostly relating to their reasons for practicing polygamy). I also was disappointed by the ending of the book. I kept waiting for the whole "what didn't kill me made me stronger" spe [...]

    15. Abby on said:

      I really enjoyed this memoir. Knowing very little about the fundamentalist Mormon church, I found Spencer's candor and honesty about being a polygamist's wife refreshing, heartbreaking, and informative. Spencer never stoops to the level of pathos or moralizing. She tells her story straight-up and to the point, detailing how she falls in love with her brother-in-law and becomes his second wife, the abject poverty she lived in for much of her life, bearing 13 children, and more often than not, car [...]

    16. Maria Armada on said:

      Very interesting book. A quick summation would be: a biography of a woman who followed a fundametalist mormon lifestyle which demands polygamy. Her husband married 7 women, she was the second wife, and bore him 13 children (out of a total of 47) and raised them in dire poverty in rural Mexico.I had passed up this book several times but then I read "Prophet of Blood" about the FLDS cult run by the LeBaron brothers and this women was married to one of the "non-prophet" brothers (over 4 Lebaron bro [...]

    17. Annika on said:

      If I mark this as 2 stars, it looks like I really disliked it, when two stars = "okay". If I mark it as 3 stars, it says "I liked it" and that is quite a stretch. I didn't LIKE it. I just was interested by the incredible horror that is polygamy (you can already see that I'm biased) and so I read this account. Yes, I understand this is ONE woman's account of polygamy and being a "sister-wife" for almost 30 years.I understand she does not speak for all sister-wives.But I went into this with my own [...]

    18. Shelley Kresan on said:

      Probably the 10th book in a succession of books about the FLDS and fundamentalist Mormons. This one HAS to be the most frustrating to me. She balks at the lifestyle from the beginning and seemed to have a strong spirit, but she stayed and stayed. She went through all this when it was at least physically easier to leave, but despite all evidence to the contrary she believed that the Principle was her only way to be a Goddess and continue to serve the man who put her through hell throughout eterni [...]

    19. Kelsey Hanson on said:

      This book gives one of the most comprehensive books on what it's like to be in a polygamist family. This book doesn't focus on just the negative aspects (although trust me there are plenty of negative moments). This book doesn't follow the FLDS branch (Warren Jeffs and his followers) but it is a branch of Mormanism. While there is no direct abuse (unless you count women getting young pretty early), there is still a lot of pain when it comes to sharing a husband and trying to build a life with so [...]

    20. Erin on said:

      This book filled in some of the gaps that Favorite Wife didn't cover. This book is by Verlan's second wife, Irene, while Favorite Wife is by Verlan's 5th wife, Susan. I found both pretty enthralling. I doubt though that a reader could have followed this book as well without having read Favorite Wife first. This book makes a lot of references to things that I only understood as a result of having read the other book. It's pretty interesting that both wives, despite ultimately leaving the religion [...]

    21. jenn on said:

      This book is seriously frakked up. I'm glad Irene Spencer shared her story, when so many women in her situation, even today, suffer in silence. I spent most of the book pretty shocked and angry that anyone would put their kids through this level of poverty. Particularly when the author's constant defense of her actions was that she liked sleeping with her "husband" too much to leave him. Dude, when your baby falls through the rotting floor of an outhouse and almost drowns in pee and poop, it mig [...]

    22. Jill Lamond on said:

      This autobiography was not only extremely readable and fast paced but it was also well-written. Irene doesn't hold back in sharing all the details of her polygamous lifestyle. It is a fascinating insight into a completely different point of view. If you liked the TV show, Big Love, then I think you would enjoy this.

    23. Bree T on said:

      Irene Spencer was born into a polygamist household. Her mother was one of four wives, although she did leave Irene’s father when Irene was still a child. Despite the fact that Irene did not spend her entire adolescence growing up within a polygamist arrangement, she certainly had enough teachings of their fundamentalist Mormon faith to feel the need to fulfill her role as a vessel for a man. Although Irene had the chance of a monogamous marriage borne of love, ultimately she turned her back on [...]

    24. Melissa on said:

      Having already read "His Favorite Wife" I was much surprised to find out that this book was written by a sister-wife of "His Favorite Wife"'s author. Eagerly, I set into it to find a different perspective of the same family. And like the others, I found it immensely heart breaking.Irene starts the tale of her life as a small girl growing up in a polygamous family. Coming from four generations of polygamy, the doctrines are all she knows of life. When her mother leaves her father and becomes marr [...]

    25. Tracy Lee on said:

      Interesting. Easy to read. Gave some insight as to how a woman married to a man married to 8 other women lives (answer: not very well). Frustrating because throughout the book the author makes very definitive statements about how she won't do certain things and how she's leaving the husband (she was wife #2) and how miserable she is/hates her life/depressed/suicidal, each child she gives birth to without the husband even being in the same country is going to be her lastuntil the next baby and ea [...]

    26. Nouran Attia on said:

      I was having some sort of reader's block, but this book was interesting enough to grab my attention and push me forward to keep on going. It discussed Mormonism and practicing polygamy which was something I never knew existed before reading this book. It was gripping to see the character go through all that in her lifetime and actually know that this is for real and that this really happened. On the other hand, listening to the character complain and thinking why isn't she taking some course of [...]

    27. Paula on said:

      I think it is unfortunate that people live the way that they do. But who am I to judge? Honestly? Though I certainly wouldn't live that way and at the same time, am thankful to read about people who do live that way.For those that have low self-esteem, especially in the realm of family, marriage and even God, I suppose it doesn't surprise me that this happened.I do continue to question Mormonism and other religious faiths. How can something be taught to your "God" and than over time, change how [...]

    28. Linnea on said:

      This is a very heavy and intense book. I felt the author did a fantastic job writing her story and leaving nothing out. It left me heavy hearted, but also gave me insight to a lifestyle I don't know much about it. I would definitely recommend it- just know it isn't a light read and parts were tough to get through without getting emotionally angry and upset.

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